persister cleanup (still broke but logic is there for when it isn't); also replace all the SOE BS for forwarding stl port with native object classes because i thought that may be part of the problem...

engine/server/library/serverDatabase/src/shared/ImmediateDeleteCustomPersistStep.h

@@ -28,7 +28,7 @@ class ImmediateDeleteCustomPersistStep : public CustomPersistStep
 	void addObject             (const NetworkId &deletedObject);
 	
   private:
-	stdset<NetworkId>::fwd     *m_objects; // using set instead of vector to enforce uniqueness
+	std::set<NetworkId>     *m_objects; // using set instead of vector to enforce uniqueness
 
   private:
 	ImmediateDeleteCustomPersistStep &operator= (const ImmediateDeleteCustomPersistStep&); //disable